Hello. I'm honestly think this is my first post. I'm a 25-year-old virgin whose never really actively sought out a boyfriend, nor do I feel like I really need one. I guess it helps that I'm sort of an big introvert and have really low testosterone. Not to be tmi, but all of my female friends masterbate and the like, and find it weird that I don't really care about my body in that way. I'm much more interested in finding someone that's sort of a friend but with snuggling benefits? I know that sounds cheesy, but that's the closest I can describe it. I wouldn't mind being monogamous with another individual, boy or girl, as long as I can get close to them, and we have a lot in common. I mean in the way of always knowing I can come home to someone, and that they won't dedicate their attention to another. Nothing of it really has to do with sex, of course. It's an emotional bond. I'm sure this would be the definition of a soul mate.
Granted I'm not saying I could never have sex, it's just on the list of priorites and importance of relationships, it's at the bottom of my list, easily. I'm much more stimulated in the way of mental and emotional connection. I'm an artist, so when I really get into it, there's my masterbation and eventual climax towards the piece's completion lol. Any other asexual artists else feel this way?
Recently I admit, I've been going through an identity crises the past two years or so, and letting other people influence me. I thought it was just me 'growing up' but it was more of a sort of supression.. Amist that I felt like I needed a boyfriend, and needed to be more social in order to create normalcy for myself, because I wasn't feeling much of anything else, and hell, everyone else was doing it. My art was suffering during this time, too.
I eventually got accepted into a private art institute, and I actually had problems producing genuine art, even if it's for the classroom, I still get a lot out of it, and want it to express who I am. I found myself stumbling in the place that I've always wanted to be. Gradually though, like someone recovering from any other trauma, I'm regaining myself, and my art. There was a point where I was actually trying to 'sexualize' myself, and it only left me feeling empty. I wouldn't take back the experience, because I learned from it, but it's been a difficult time of confusion. Recently I know that I'm getting back on track, because a friend I meant recently said "Are you asexual? You don't seem like a very sexual creature". And somehow that put my mind at ease. I always want to leave my options open, but I think I could only do something with another person if I was genuinely in love.
Anyone have similar stories of confusion, or openness?